Love is very valuable. We can’t explain about love in our life. We can get love as lovely experience. It does not know to destroy to other lives. More persons are cheating to others with love and cheating by others. Life is not without love. Love is not only belongs to lovers. It is belongs to between parents, relations and friends. So, change to your mind lovely in love. Then, your heart will be freely.
More lovers and some persons are dieing (with suicide) because of their problems. Actually, they are increasing to their problems and in their family also. Is it good?
If there is any problem, then there is solution in your thinking. Then, your problem is solved. Problems can create pains. But, they can’t kill. It is not my advice and Philosophy words. It is my words of confident.
The history shows one thing that secret is the suicide candidates are can’t go to heaven. They go to hell must and should. Heaven is belongs to understanding lives, not suicide lives. Hell is very danger than real life hell. God created souls. But, we are destroying our souls with suicides, bad habits and sins.
Man’s misfortunes are concerned to his sins. Not belongs to god. Then, why insult to god. More persons praise to god in happiness and insult to god in sad. What a foolish mind us! God see every work of human. God knows everything. Life is in good understanding.
Friday, April 29, 2011
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Very Smart Brothas' blog answers African Americans' questions on life, love and culture
Ever had a crush on a co-worker you wouldn't normally find attractive outside of the office? You were probably wearing "Work Goggles." Or maybe you've encountered a "Diva Dude" - he's the hottie who knows he's in high dating demand and won't let you forget it.
These additions to the modern relationship lexicon are the work of the guys at VerySmartBrothas.com, a blog that focuses on love, dating and pop culture from an African American perspective. Washington-based Panama Jackson (31-year-old government analyst D. Marcellus Wright) and The Champ (Pittsburgh educator Damon Young, 30) became friends in 2004 after discovering each other's personal blogs; by 2008, they had abandoned those individual ventures to launch VSB.
Nearly three years and more than 700 posts later, the blog has found its own candid, catchy voice - and a devoted following, with about 400 posts a day. The duo write about their experiences and observations and take questions from readers. In his "Dear Champ" advice series, Young answers queries, mostly from women, such as "Should I wait on him if he's not ready for a relationship?" and "Can you sleep your way to a man's heart?" (No and no, according to The Champ.)
Despite their longtime collaboration, however, the two have never met face to face. Online contact keeps the partnership alive, but they haven't managed to be in the same city at the same time. "It's almost as if we're playing a very advanced and very peculiar game of phone tag," Young says. (Holding the two together is Liz Burr, 29, a consultant and mutual friend, who has been overseeing the blog's day-to-day operations and marketing since its launch.)
Over time, they've expanded to include a podcast series and organized meet-ups for fans in Pittsburgh and the District. And on Jan. 31, they released their self-published book, "Your Degrees Won't Keep You Warm at Night: The Very Smart Brothas Guide to Dating, Mating, and Fighting Crime."
The book expands on topics and dating vocabulary created on the blog, such as "Close-Bus Syndrome," the dating equivalent of a common public transportation nightmare when, frustrated that the right bus isn't showing up, you get on the next one even if it's not going exactly where you want, because it's better than going nowhere at all.
"We're doing pretty well for a book whose only promotion to this date has been word-of-mouth and some grass-roots efforts from our fans," Jackson says.
Jackson and The Champ hope the book will draw a new round of fans to check out VerySmartBrothas.com. And for those ready to join the fray, Young offers this advice: "Come in with an open mind and heart and willingness to laugh at yourself."
These additions to the modern relationship lexicon are the work of the guys at VerySmartBrothas.com, a blog that focuses on love, dating and pop culture from an African American perspective. Washington-based Panama Jackson (31-year-old government analyst D. Marcellus Wright) and The Champ (Pittsburgh educator Damon Young, 30) became friends in 2004 after discovering each other's personal blogs; by 2008, they had abandoned those individual ventures to launch VSB.
Nearly three years and more than 700 posts later, the blog has found its own candid, catchy voice - and a devoted following, with about 400 posts a day. The duo write about their experiences and observations and take questions from readers. In his "Dear Champ" advice series, Young answers queries, mostly from women, such as "Should I wait on him if he's not ready for a relationship?" and "Can you sleep your way to a man's heart?" (No and no, according to The Champ.)
Despite their longtime collaboration, however, the two have never met face to face. Online contact keeps the partnership alive, but they haven't managed to be in the same city at the same time. "It's almost as if we're playing a very advanced and very peculiar game of phone tag," Young says. (Holding the two together is Liz Burr, 29, a consultant and mutual friend, who has been overseeing the blog's day-to-day operations and marketing since its launch.)
Over time, they've expanded to include a podcast series and organized meet-ups for fans in Pittsburgh and the District. And on Jan. 31, they released their self-published book, "Your Degrees Won't Keep You Warm at Night: The Very Smart Brothas Guide to Dating, Mating, and Fighting Crime."
The book expands on topics and dating vocabulary created on the blog, such as "Close-Bus Syndrome," the dating equivalent of a common public transportation nightmare when, frustrated that the right bus isn't showing up, you get on the next one even if it's not going exactly where you want, because it's better than going nowhere at all.
"We're doing pretty well for a book whose only promotion to this date has been word-of-mouth and some grass-roots efforts from our fans," Jackson says.
Jackson and The Champ hope the book will draw a new round of fans to check out VerySmartBrothas.com. And for those ready to join the fray, Young offers this advice: "Come in with an open mind and heart and willingness to laugh at yourself."
Friday, January 28, 2011
Stoner live-in girlfriend and a distraught mom
My brother, 23, is a college grad living at home with my parents. He works the night shift at a mental health facility - a job he finds unfulfilling, though he has made no motions to improve his situation (he has even turned down a promotion opportunity). He has said he wants to move out, but he cannot afford his own place.
His girlfriend is unemployed (taking a few classes) and has a drug problem (marijuana), and a few months ago she decided she is now a resident of my parents' household. She sleeps over every night, very rarely leaves, and sits in lil' bro's room, wearing his clothes, stoned, waiting for him to come home from work. Her mother has even started to leave food in our refrigerator for her (her parents live nearby). She has never asked my parents if this is okay. Really - who does that?
My mother is very uncomfortable with this unwanted, permanent houseguest. However, she is sympathetic to my brother's plight as one of the many underpaid, overworked college grads living with parents. I feel this situation is inappropriate, uncomfortable and unhealthy. My mother agrees, but is at a loss as to how to confront my brother and this girl without stomping on his nascent adulthood and causing a huge fight. What on earth should she do??
Baffled big sis
If your mom wants to respect your brother's "nascent adulthood," then she needs to treat him like an adult. As follows: "I've said nothing about your girlfriend's staying here, hoping you would recognize for yourself that it is totally inappropriate for her to sit in your room full-time, stoned. She's a nice girl; this is no life for her. Please steer her out of your room, and ideally to some help, or else I will have to get involved."
If he's ready for the adult consideration your mother has granted him, then he won't take these as fighting words.
But if he does get defensive, then your mother can express her sympathy for his situation as a college grad living at mom's, while also making it clear that while it's his life, it's still her home. Period. "I love you, I get it, but, no." Allowing herself to get sucked into an argument would actually send the message that she sees him as fragile, and that would undermine her respectful intent.
My brother, 23, is a college grad living at home with my parents. He works the night shift at a mental health facility - a job he finds unfulfilling, though he has made no motions to improve his situation (he has even turned down a promotion opportunity). He has said he wants to move out, but he cannot afford his own place.
His girlfriend is unemployed (taking a few classes) and has a drug problem (marijuana), and a few months ago she decided she is now a resident of my parents' household. She sleeps over every night, very rarely leaves, and sits in lil' bro's room, wearing his clothes, stoned, waiting for him to come home from work. Her mother has even started to leave food in our refrigerator for her (her parents live nearby). She has never asked my parents if this is okay. Really - who does that?
My mother is very uncomfortable with this unwanted, permanent houseguest. However, she is sympathetic to my brother's plight as one of the many underpaid, overworked college grads living with parents. I feel this situation is inappropriate, uncomfortable and unhealthy. My mother agrees, but is at a loss as to how to confront my brother and this girl without stomping on his nascent adulthood and causing a huge fight. What on earth should she do??
Baffled big sis
If your mom wants to respect your brother's "nascent adulthood," then she needs to treat him like an adult. As follows: "I've said nothing about your girlfriend's staying here, hoping you would recognize for yourself that it is totally inappropriate for her to sit in your room full-time, stoned. She's a nice girl; this is no life for her. Please steer her out of your room, and ideally to some help, or else I will have to get involved."
If he's ready for the adult consideration your mother has granted him, then he won't take these as fighting words.
But if he does get defensive, then your mother can express her sympathy for his situation as a college grad living at mom's, while also making it clear that while it's his life, it's still her home. Period. "I love you, I get it, but, no." Allowing herself to get sucked into an argument would actually send the message that she sees him as fragile, and that would undermine her respectful intent.
His girlfriend is unemployed (taking a few classes) and has a drug problem (marijuana), and a few months ago she decided she is now a resident of my parents' household. She sleeps over every night, very rarely leaves, and sits in lil' bro's room, wearing his clothes, stoned, waiting for him to come home from work. Her mother has even started to leave food in our refrigerator for her (her parents live nearby). She has never asked my parents if this is okay. Really - who does that?
My mother is very uncomfortable with this unwanted, permanent houseguest. However, she is sympathetic to my brother's plight as one of the many underpaid, overworked college grads living with parents. I feel this situation is inappropriate, uncomfortable and unhealthy. My mother agrees, but is at a loss as to how to confront my brother and this girl without stomping on his nascent adulthood and causing a huge fight. What on earth should she do??
Baffled big sis
If your mom wants to respect your brother's "nascent adulthood," then she needs to treat him like an adult. As follows: "I've said nothing about your girlfriend's staying here, hoping you would recognize for yourself that it is totally inappropriate for her to sit in your room full-time, stoned. She's a nice girl; this is no life for her. Please steer her out of your room, and ideally to some help, or else I will have to get involved."
If he's ready for the adult consideration your mother has granted him, then he won't take these as fighting words.
But if he does get defensive, then your mother can express her sympathy for his situation as a college grad living at mom's, while also making it clear that while it's his life, it's still her home. Period. "I love you, I get it, but, no." Allowing herself to get sucked into an argument would actually send the message that she sees him as fragile, and that would undermine her respectful intent.
My brother, 23, is a college grad living at home with my parents. He works the night shift at a mental health facility - a job he finds unfulfilling, though he has made no motions to improve his situation (he has even turned down a promotion opportunity). He has said he wants to move out, but he cannot afford his own place.
His girlfriend is unemployed (taking a few classes) and has a drug problem (marijuana), and a few months ago she decided she is now a resident of my parents' household. She sleeps over every night, very rarely leaves, and sits in lil' bro's room, wearing his clothes, stoned, waiting for him to come home from work. Her mother has even started to leave food in our refrigerator for her (her parents live nearby). She has never asked my parents if this is okay. Really - who does that?
My mother is very uncomfortable with this unwanted, permanent houseguest. However, she is sympathetic to my brother's plight as one of the many underpaid, overworked college grads living with parents. I feel this situation is inappropriate, uncomfortable and unhealthy. My mother agrees, but is at a loss as to how to confront my brother and this girl without stomping on his nascent adulthood and causing a huge fight. What on earth should she do??
Baffled big sis
If your mom wants to respect your brother's "nascent adulthood," then she needs to treat him like an adult. As follows: "I've said nothing about your girlfriend's staying here, hoping you would recognize for yourself that it is totally inappropriate for her to sit in your room full-time, stoned. She's a nice girl; this is no life for her. Please steer her out of your room, and ideally to some help, or else I will have to get involved."
If he's ready for the adult consideration your mother has granted him, then he won't take these as fighting words.
But if he does get defensive, then your mother can express her sympathy for his situation as a college grad living at mom's, while also making it clear that while it's his life, it's still her home. Period. "I love you, I get it, but, no." Allowing herself to get sucked into an argument would actually send the message that she sees him as fragile, and that would undermine her respectful intent.
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